You Decide.

I dont know how many weeks of blogging I have missed. I apologise. I have been doing alot of things and have been super busy.

Now.

I do a thing. It is a great thing. It is a very important thing. It is a thing that not everyone likes. It is called what I want. Doing things YOUR way to YOUR standards is ridiculously important. Being your own person with your own opinions and likes and dislikes is so important that it is one of the few things that truly define you. There are a whole variety of things that people think define you, but dont. For example your hair colour, your skill levels, or your sexual orientation. There are things that are a part of you, and things that define you.

To make that make sense, think of it like this. All the little things like your eye colour, height and weight are like a hunk of rock. They are all the facts and what you are stuck with whether you like it or not. But what carves that rock is your favourite bands, the people you hang out with, and the things that you do when you have nothing to do. You are what you stand up for, what you have faith in, and the song that your soul sings. You cannot control how tall you are, or how long your arms are, or who your family is. You may not get to choose the solid bricks of what life is. But what you do get to choose is how you place those bricks, and what you choose to create. Do you choose to build your bricks into a house, or a wall? Are you using them to create, or destroy? Because life is life. It is insane and crazy and unfathomable. But how you play your cards is up to you. Either you decide, or fate decides. But dont let other people decide and rule your life. At the end of the day, do YOU love your life? Do YOU love the people that you are with? Do you fall asleep with a dream, and wake up with a goal? If you arent happy with your life, change it. Dont wait for me to tell you or your friends to tell you or your pastor to tell you. Making your own choices and being your own person is so important because no matter what, YOUR choices define YOUR life.

Have your own failures. Have your flops and have your falls. Because at the end of it, you will have your own successes. You need to be able to say at the end of the day, you were the person who created your life.

Anyway my laptop is dying got to go ahhh

The Socially Awkward, AKA Melissa xx

My overdue, segway-less blogpost of this week

Hey guys! How are you? How is life?

At the moment it is rhetorical, but if you are actually reading this please let me know in the comments below. I am getting straight into it today because I am pretty rubbish at segways.

It is so important to accept yourself, and see yourself for what you truly are, no matter who you are around, what stage you are at, or why you are where you are.

When you no longer define yourself by the words and opinions of others, you find a whole lot of freedom that no one is able to take away from you.

This post could go in hundreds of different directions, but the direction I am going to take it into is body image.

You are allowed to love yourself. Not when you fit into those jeans or go for a run or choose salad over fries, but now.

Close your eyes, and open your heart.

 You are not the size you are on a clothing rack or the number of kilos on the scales or the distance between your thighs. You are the bands you like, and the books that you read, and what you do in your free time. You are how you treat people and what you photograph, and what you dream about. And the fact that I have to remind the word of this makes me really really sad. The problem isnt with your body, the problem is what you think of it; and what you think of yourself. We dont shame flowers for being to short, too tall, too big, too dark, or too stripey. So why do we hate on people for it? All your body ever does is look after you and keep you alive. There are trillions of cells inside you, and all they care about is you. 

Society is messed up. If you love yourself, you are too proud. But if you dont, you are attention hungry. If you are unique, you are weird. If you are normal, you are boring. No matter how you feel about yourself, you are going to get hated on for it.

Everyone has something they are self concious about, but at the end of the day if you arent happy in your own skin then something needs to be done. When you are in a positive headspace and accept yourself, you have an incredible ammount of power. Because once you have accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.

CHALLENGE FOR THIS WEEK

Point out your three favourite things about your body. Then, choose one bit of your body you dont like, and find a way to like it. Whether that be you pat it, and tell yourself how amazing it is, or look a bit deeper and see why it is like that. Sometimes our biggest insecurities are the things that are actually our strengths.

Once I wore a crop top out and felt extremely self concious, but got heaps of compliments. My insecurity turned out to be my asset. I mean I still hate crop tops and never want to wear one but to know that the things that you are worrying about are things that arent actually bad is a very nice feeling.

Anyway, I hope you liked this weeks post. Sorry it is a bit late, I have had a very busy week.

Melissa xx